It's Not The Old Age That Ages You!

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"- We are not here to save anyone. We are here to love. To heal ourselves and to hold the light for others. And then the light will point the way."
- Auriela McCarthy


Hello, dear friends,

Another week has gone by...
In 8 days we will be celebrating Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday!

Isn't it wonderful that in this country, we have a national holiday designated to feeling grateful.
What a fabulous tradition!

And once again I am overwhelmed with gratitude for you, my readers and listeners... and I am deeply humbled. With all the available sources of information that are competing for your time and attention, you choose to read my Food for Thought emails and to listen to my radio shows, and so many of you do it regularly...when I let it in, I am close to tears.

You might have noticed that I haven't put up any new radio shows for a couple of weeks now. Here is why.

Webtalkradio.net has invested a lot of money into completely redoing their website. The new one will be fabulous and will be up and running very shortly.
So here is something you might be interested in.

If you have a business that can use consistent national and international exposure to targeted audience, I am now able to offer you something amazing.

Around 30,000 plus people are downloading my show every week, consistently, for a very long time. Think about it. 30,000 people or more. (!)
These are not random listeners, who are in their car when the show is on. These are the people who consciously take time every week to listen and to re-listen to the show.

That means they WILL hear about your business if we tell them about it.

Internet radio advertising is ridiculously inexpensive in comparison to broadcast radio. If you want to advertise on my show, I can do it for you starting with $50 a week (!) yes, you read it correctly.

$50 to $100, to $200-300 a week tops, depending on the options. But even with $50 you get a lot! A consistent exposure to an audience that is growing all the time, who often forwards the podcasts to their friends.
Another the beautiful thing is that once the show is recorded, the information about you and your service remains there! Whether you still have a contract or not. Your banner, your logo, your voice or mine, telling them about your business...

I can take 3 or 4 advertisers, no more. I also need to do it, because the cost of running the show without advertisers has become too high.

If you are interested, send me a quick email and I will send you all the details. Then you can decide if it makes good business sense for you or not.

A School of Hope and Inspiration

Today, Tuesday November 17, 2009
Gathering: 6:30PM -7PM Class: 7PM - 9:30PM

RSVP for address and directions.
Classes are held in Southern Marin
email Auriela@AurielaMcCarthy.com
I appreciate if everyone RSVPs,
so I know how many seats we need.
Please, be on time, we will start promptly at 7pm

Here is this week's Food for Thought.

Back to Thanksgiving.

What better time to be talking about Gratitude - my favorite subject?

Yet something else is coming through, and when it happens, I listen.
So here it is.

The holiday season is upon us, and with it - for many - the dreaded "obligation" of having to be around someone you've been successfully avoiding all year.
In other words - having to see people with whom you still have "unfinished business." Unfinished emotionally.

You are still hurt or angry or resentful about what happened between you in the past and this past is still very much alive in you. You have not let it go.

This unfinished business is not something benign. And therefore not something you can continue to ignore. Because it is draining your energy.

Here is how it works.

As long as you have strong feelings about a person: feel they have hurt you, are angry at them or hate them, "can't stand them", etc. etc. you remain energetically connected to them.
There are invisible cords that are holding the two of you together, the cords that stretch indefinitely, because when it comes to energy, distance and time lose their meaning.

As long as you keep these feelings alive, the cords between you are alive a well.

Why should you worry about the stupid cords that you can't even see?

For starters, because they cause you to lose your energy.

Thank God you have been born with a lot of it, otherwise you would have been depleted long ago.
But you are leaking it, energy that is - your life force. The force with which you build your life, create your dreams, make things happen...

Why do you think kids have so much energy? Adolescents as well? They haven't yet leaked enough of it out.
It is a myth that we have less energy because of age.

We have less energy because of age-old resentments.

Haven't you seen some amazingly beautiful, radiant older people, who are simply bursting with life? They seem so free, and so wise. And in their wisdom - so innocent. How did they get there? What's their secret?

They have let go of their painful past.
In one lump sum, or piece by piece.

One way or another, through innate wisdom or inner work - they have been able to let the past be the past.

They have set it down by the side of the road and - walked away.

They stopped carrying it on their back. That's why they are not bent like so many other people their age. They have amazing posture, and - they laugh a lot. So old - and yet, having so much fun? How totally against everything you have been taught to believe...

Because it is not old age that break's your back. It is age-old resentments that do it.
And - your resistance to letting them go.

I know you've heard all this before. Too many times. So many, that you have stopped hearing the truth behind these words.

The truth is: You are the one with the key to your prison. Not the person who hurt you. But - you.

Is it worth it to lose your life to whatever happened a long time ago?
Is it worth it to keep leaking and leaking your energy?
Until you've lost so much of it, it's past the point of no return?

Of course not.

Listen.

There is so much wonder that lies ahead! So many new possibilities!
Let these holidays be the time you start fresh.

Release all the people that caused you pain, whether they are alive or dead.
And release yourself from the pain of what you've deemed "unforgivable" in you.

Say: Enough.
Make that choice.

Like one incredible woman who had survived Auschwitz said:
"Hitler got 4 years of my life. I am not giving him one more day!"

If she could do it, so can anyone. Including you!

"But Auriela, you don't know what happened to me...besides I already tried to let go...and it didn't work."

Sorry, but I am not buying it.
Are you?

You might have tried, but you have never really made the choice to be done.

Come on, it's just you and the computer page. No one is listening. Not even I, the one who wrote that page. Right here, right now - tell yourself the truth.
And then - forgive yourself for keeping yourself prisoner to that past.
Forgive yourself for wanting vindication, or apology or whatever else it would be really nice to get...

You don't need it. Not really. Your ego does, but not you. What you need is your freedom. So give it to yourself - and be surprised:

It is not just possible to let go and move on, it may turn out to be easier than you can imagine.

If you read The Power of the Possible, remember the Chapter: The Son Who Forgave His Father? Or the Chapter: The Wife of an Alcoholic? These are true stories, of people like you and me.

Let their lives be your inspiration. Read these Chapters again, even if you have read them already. Read them with new eyes. They may change your life.

Watch my video on forgiveness on YouTube, download the 2 forgiveness meditations from the Home page of my website - and do them. (all the links are below.) They work! I have endless testimonials from people whose lives were changed by them.


It is a choice: To hold on to the past or - to drop it.
Holding on comes with a lot of juicy stuff: you can keep blaming, you can keep "being right" you can keep explaining away your unhappiness...
The juicy stuff is poison. Throw it out.

Don't wait for the New Year and another set of New Year's Resolutions...
Right here, right now - let this Thanksgiving be your New Beginning.
Celebrate yourself and your Power to Choose! You were born with it, even if you didn't always know it.
You do now. Contemplate this miracle. Let it fill you with Wonder!

All for now.
See some of you today, Tuesday the 17th.

Much love to you, always.

Remember: never ever give up hope!
Auriela.
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Forgiveness Meditations

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Hello, Dear Friends,

Another week has passed.

The Forgiveness meditations' downloading seems to have taken a life of its own.

A continuous stream of people is coming to my website daily to get the 2 meditations. What a powerful thing word-of-mouth is! You have an amazing experience and you share it with your friends. And it spreads. Farther and farther, in all directions and around the world. I see so many foreign names...and I find myself thinking "What country are you from? What continent?"

People I will never meet and in most cases will never know anything about are reaching across the borders for this one website called Power of the Possible, because someone told them it can help them heal their pain.

Here is the link to the Forgiveness Meditations
Here is the link to World Wide Forgiveness site

And once again I am moved beyond words by the mystery of it all.

Here is what one woman wrote to me and gave me permission to share with you:

"The meditations were fantastic. A very interesting thing happened to me after doing the meditations. I've been fighting a sinus infection for over 2 months. Two weeks ago I finally went to the doctor to get antibiotics, a desperate move for me (I avoid them as much as possible), but the antibiotics didn't even work. I was at my wits end.

After doing the meditation to forgive others my sinus infection went away! I've been holding on to some hurt feelings towards my family (in regards to my cancer experience). I didn't think it was possible, but I was finally able to let go of my hurt feelings. I didn't understand these last 2 months that my sinus infection was connected to my anger towards my brothers and mother. I'm still amazed at how easy it was to forgive them, I was thinking that my relationship with them would never be the same. I was at a crossroads.

In one morning I rid myself of hurt feelings and a sinus infection, WOW!! Thank you so much."

--Wendy McClure.

I will add to this the words of Eva Korr, a holocaust survivor:
"Forgiveness is the best medicine. It's free, it has no side-effects, and it works!"
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An Invitation to Join People All Over the World in 2 Guided Synchronized meditations.

Announcing the Most Exciting Event: The World Wide Movement to Forgive!
August 3rd, 2008 11am EST and 1pm EST.

An Invitation to Join People All Over the World
in 2 Guided Synchronized meditations.

Honoring the 12th Anniversary of the International Day of Forgiveness.

About a year ago roughly, an idea came to me seemingly out of the blue. And idea that wouldn’t leave.

What if great numbers of people would connect on the same day and at the same time focusing together on one singular issue: Forgiving the past and letting go of it once and for all?

What an enormously powerful healing experience would that be.

Because when many people come together joined by a singular intent the power and the effectiveness of this intent is exponentially increased.

Just think about. We have so many examples of what the energy generated by a mass movement can do. On both ends of the spectrum. That’s how all revolutions, all liberation movements, all uprisings have always began. Even right now, in the United States, with the presidential election campaign gathering momentum, every successful appearance of the presidential candidate has the potential power to create an internal change in everyone listening. If people are inspired and uplifted their mood raises, changing from hopelessness to hope, from fear to a new vision.

Why can’t we use this very principle to help ourselves heal the painful experiences of the past, so that they no longer color our experience of the present? So that we can finally let go of our various destructive patterns? Everyone has them to some degree. Many still live prisoners to their past, reliving it over and over again, acting it out in their every day lives, not realizing that they are the only ones with the key to unlock that prison and that it is up to them to use that key.

Because if it is up to our offenders, then we are really stuck. What if they couldn’t care less? What if they are dead? What if they don’t even remember?

And that’s how my idea became a vision. I followed that vision and it expanded and became its own force:

The International Day of Forgiveness is celebrating its 12th Anniversary! What a grand opportunity for all of us to join together in a powerful forgiveness meditation, forgiving our past and sending the wave of healing energy to every corner of the world, bringing change, bringing hope, bringing new possibility!

I created a 45 minute Video Webinar explaining the controversy around forgiveness, talking about the many misconceptions about it and why it is our only saving grace. I can write an entire book about it and probably will one day. 45 minutes of the video barely scratches the surface and yet – it is enough. Enough for now.
And I put all of it on my new website www.PowerofthePossible.com or www.AurielaMcCarthy.com

In addition to the video, I have recorded two guided forgiveness meditations - to forgive yourself and to forgive another – for streaming and downloading, (my gift to you so you can also use them in the future, any time you are drawn to do them.) You can access the meditation download page here or on my website www.PowweOfThePossible.com. It is all there.

Why the meditations? Because often the easiest and the most elegant way to forgive is a meditative way.

I did all this so everyone interested in giving Forgiveness a try can watch the video, think about what I am saying and make their own choice. And if the choice is yes – here is THE MOST EXCITNG NEWS OF ALL:

ON August 3rd, at 11 am Eastern (New York) Time and again at 1pm Eastern (New York) Time
we will all do it TOGETHER!

If you are reading this now – then – this news is for you. If you are moved to forward this blog – then this news is also for the ones that will receive it.
Trust your call. Forward the news. Let’s create this huge wave of energy! It has already began and is now spreading everywhere, to the most unexpected places.

Everybody carries pain in their hearts. Some more of it, others less, but all of us do. Let us heal as much as we can, so that there is less pain in the world. So that we are free to live the lives we have always dreamed of and have been destined to live.

Imagine being one with the great numbers of people all focusing on forgiving and letting go at the same time.

Imagine being part of a huge wave of energy moving through the planet, bringing the tears of forgiveness to the farthest corners of the world . Exponentially increasing the opportunity for healing and change for everyone.

Would you like to be part of this movement? To heal what’s still causing you pain? To heal what you’ve deemed “unforgivable” in yourself and in others? Something you were unable to let go of it or didn’t believe you could?

And now imagine a life free from pain. No skeletons to haunt you in the night, no demons from the past showing up unannounced, robbing you of your dreams in the last minute, no successes undone before your very eyes…A fantasy or a true possibility? An impossible dream or something that can be achieved?

There are people living this life already. How did they get there? They have found a way to let go of their past. They have forgiven themselves – and they have forgiven others.

Would you like to join me and so many others as we heal the past, forgive what has not yet been forgiven and set ourselves free?

Too good to be true? Try it anyway! What have you got to lose?
The old baggage, the weight of the past, all the reasons for “why not”… Any day is a good day to be done with them. Remember: The time to be free is always NOW.

And let us share our stories with each other. Let’s create a forum right here, on this blog. Write about your experience. Share your thoughts. Write now, and write again later, after you’ve meditated and forgave on August 3rd.
Expect your life to be different. Expect the change. And share what you can with us. Let’s all be each other’s inspiration!

Honoring the 12th Anniversary of the International Day of Forgiveness.

First, the wonderful news I have recently received.
The 2008 New York Book Awards has announced its winners.

The panel of judges reviewed books in 4 different languages published over the period of 8, 5 years ( January 1, 2000 to mid 2008.)
and awarded The Power of the Possible with An Honorable Mention!

I couldn’t fly to New York for the celebration which was on Saturday, June 28 in Central Park, but - I was thrilled at the news!

Which brings me to the next subject. The reason I couldn’t go was because I had been incredibly busy getting ready for the celebration of
The 12the Anniversary of the International day of Forgiveness
which this year is on August 3rd.

Those of you who read The Power of the Possible or listen to my radio show on www.webtalkradio.net know how much and how often I write and talk about forgiveness. I do it because I have come to a profound understanding that forgiving and letting go is the only way for us to be free of whatever had happened in the past that is still causing us pain. We will never be free otherwise. No matter how many successes we have created nor how good it all looks on the outside. Deep inside - something will be missing. We will always feel as if we are wearing a mask afraid to be found out.

I’ve come to understand this deeply, on a gut level through my own personal experience and also through the experiences of those around me - friends, family, clients…

I also know that the very idea of forgiveness is still surrounded in controversy. Can everything be forgiven? Where do we draw the line? Some people get incredibly angry at the very mention of forgiving, believing it must be earned, deserved, asked for.

Does it really? Here is something to think about:

One woman, a victim of horrendous crime, said to me that she had forgiven her abuser out of selfish reasons. “I simply couldn’t go on living with this pain inside me,” she said. I had to let it go.
“You did it out of self-love,” I said. “This is not selfish. This is courageous and powerful.”

Another woman, a survivor of an indescribable abuse, told me that the experience had turned her into a raging, dangerous person that she had been for many years. When decades later she began to understand that her own destructive behavior was the result of what had happened to her in the past, she also began to see the probability of similar (or worse) things having happened to her abuser as well, making him capable of that level of cruelty.

And while this does not excuse anything, it makes understanding and therefore forgiving and letting go more attainable.

“We are all capable of everything under different circumstances,” she said. “To deny it is to keep perpetuating the cycle of violence.”
Both these women had found their healing through understanding of their own humanity. Both of them made a choice to forgive. Both of them have become the advocates of forgiveness. And if anything had to be earned, they had earned that right. They had forgiven their abusers and they had forgiven themselves

Themselves??? But they were the victims…
Haven’t you noticed that no matter what happens to us – we always blame ourselves first? Asking the same question again and again: “Why did it happen to me?” “What could I have done differently?”

Just think about it. I know you will agree.

And let me tell you something else that you already know:
Revenge brings no healing and no peace. An eye for an eye hasn’t worked in ages. All of it simply continues the same circle of pain. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, like they promised us. But forgiveness will.

There will always be accountability and consequences to actions, but this is a different matter.
Yet, only forgiving yourself leads to not repeating the same mistakes.
And only forgiving others leads to finally being free from what they had had done to us. So we stop carrying them on our backs every minute of our days.

And while you are thinking about it make sure you read my next blog where I will tell you about the most exciting event taking place on August 3d in which you can participate. The next blog is an invitation!

How My Life Has Changed with the Release of "The Power of the Possible"

It is one thing to write a book, quite another – to become an author.

Let me start this blog by apologizing to all my readers for not having written anything here since the beginning of January. My only excuse is that ever since the release of The Power of the Possible in mid. January my life has been taken over by a huge storm of activities – all of it exciting, all of it good, just - all of it at once!

By now I have probably given around 30 radio interviews, have started my own radio show at WebTalkRadio.net and have traveled for a month with the East Coast Book Tour. I have also spent a week at the Caribbean island at my son’s wedding – which was amazing and overwhelmingly beautiful and filled my heart with joy.

I love Love! Everything I write is about Love.

In the midst of all this, my husband and I have also sold our house, moved to a new place and almost settled!

I guess one can say I have been busy!

And oh, yes, I have also recorded a 10 CD audio set of The Power of the Possible which you can buy from my website www.PowerOfThePossible.com if you send me an email requesting it.
The special price to my subscribers for now is $24.95. It will be $49.99 once it goes to the stores.
Be careful if you listen to it while driving - I have been told that my voice puts people into trance! Please, let me know if indeed it is so.

I have discovered how much I enjoy talking at book stores and how much I love answering questions. I do have a fantastic time with the audience. Almost invariably people are buying multiple copies of The Power of the Possible – for themselves and for their friends, which is very heart-warming.

By the way, if you haven’t gotten the book yet, you can order it from Amazon.com or buy it at most Borders and Barnes and Noble. If they don’t have it, they will get it for you within days. Same with the independent book stores.

Wonderful emails from readers continue to come, lots of books are being sold, I am trying to carve out some time for the next book (the second in the series of 3) which I will begin soon…and we are re-doing the website to reflect all the changes.


Here is the info on my radio show.

It is a weekly 1 hour show that is called The Power of the Possible, just like the book. To listen to it, go to www.webtalkradio.net, click on Show Hosts and you will find the show very easily. (I have recorded 7 shows already and to my amazement – since this is a brand new show and absolutely no promotion has yet been done – several thousand people listen to it every week!).

Since this is a web show, you can hear it any time, whenever it is convenient for you. The current show plays for a week and then goes to “previous”, where all earlier shows can also be heard. Just click on “previous”, scroll through the show titles and listen to what interests you most.

If you have given any thought to the idea of “soul mates” – and who hasn’t? – you may find my discussion with Franc Sloan, an executive coach, very illuminating and quite surprising.

Also, you might want to hear the radio shows where I teach very powerful meditations on Forgiveness of yourself and of another.
The meditations are first explained and then recorded. They are extremely effective and the results will astound you, especially if you have been trying to forgive and found yourself unable to do it.

These mediations can be life-changing. They have certainly been that for me. I have done them many times and will continue to do so every time I feel I need to forgive deeper.
If you do either of these meditations, would you share with me your experience?

If you want me to answer your questions on the radio, send them to questions@powerofthepossible.com . Once I receive them, I’ll let you know the time and the tel. # to call and I will answer you on the radio. You can either listen, or participate with me. Your choice.

I will write more very soon. It feels so good to be back!